Will My Family Member or Friend Hate Me If I Stage an Intervention?

Will my family member or friendhate me if I stage an intervention?It is understandable to worry whether your family member or friend will hate you if you stage an intervention.  That is a concern for many of the people who decide to take on this significant responsibility.  There is no absolute answer, of course, but take heart – in the end the outcome is almost always positive.

When Will I Know if My Family Member or Friend Is Angry?

In many cases, the addict won’t end up hating you for staging the intervention.  It is important to get the addict to agree to start treatment immediately, and of his own free will.  An intervention does not end with forced hospitalization or rehab.  If there is any reason that hospitalization could be compelled, the situation will already have surpassed the opportunity for intervention because the police will be involved.  As long as you’re talking about an intervention, the addict still has time to make his own choice.  And to get him to choose treatment, you need to get him to understand and accept the need for treatment.  If he does this, he will not hate you for staging an intervention, even on the day you hold it.

In some cases it may take a little longer for your loved one to be able to get perspective on your action. She may enter treatment feeling angry or resentful about some of the things that were said.  Her addiction may be so strong that the physical symptoms of withdrawal are painful and overwhelming and during that period of time, she will be mad at the world.  Don’t take this personally.  By the time that the initial treatment is over and the addict is in outpatient rehab, she will likely be glad to be clean and be optimistic about the future.  She will probably thank you for saving her life.

Stage the Intervention Well to Avoid Bad Feelings

To some extent, your loved one’s immediate reaction is in your hands.  If the intervention is staged poorly or not handled well, it runs more of a chance of causing feelings of anger or resentment without getting the addict into treatment.  This is why you may want to work with an interventionist.  This trained professional will coach you through preparing what you are going to say to the addict and formulating the ultimatum that you will give in a firm but loving way.  An interventionist will also be there during the intervention to deflect hostility and anger, and keep things as calm and kind as possible.  By doing all you can to make the addict feel loved and supported instead of ambushed and abandoned, you minimize the chances that he will storm out or get so angry that the session can’t reach a satisfactory result.

In the end, no addict will hate you for a successful intervention once they have recovered from their addiction.   Call (888) 371-5722 if you would like to learn more about staging an intervention and ask a professional addiction specialist your questions.

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